Hanging with Wyatt O’Brian Evans

Looking for a great book with a gay erotica twist that also presents realistic, deep and non-stereotypical characters?

Author, actor and activist Wyatt O’Brian Evans‘ new uncensored update to 2009′s Nothing Can Tear Us Apart is now available. Nothing Can Tear Us Apart: Uncensored is the exciting and compelling story of Wes and ‘Tonio – two masculine men of color (one African-American, one Latino) who confront daunting obstacles and struggles which jeopardize their monogamous relationship.

Sounds like a good read? It is. I am almost halfway through it (with some peeks at the final chapters to prepare for the interview) and have no plans to put it down. I had the pleasure to speak with Wyatt this week to learn more about his new project.

DanNation: Your main character seems to share many characteristics with you. Are you the inspiration for Wesley Laurence Kelly?

Wyatt: I always get that question. Yes – Wes and ‘Tonio are part of me but Wesley is the most like me. Both live in me and I know what lives inside them. And, there is a bit of a composite of others I have known in my life added in as well.

DanNation: What makes this book uncensored over the first edition?

Wyatt: I had a great response to the first book and was heavily scheduled with readings and seminars. In one of these readings, a roomful of people of diverse backgrounds gave me valuable feedback on the characters and story. I incorporated some of the feedback into a a rewrite of the entire novel. So this version is a reimagination – I believe in realism and wanted to beef up the erotic aspects of the book to coincide with how these men feel about each other and to reflect that extraordinary connection they had.

DanNation: Your characters deal with domestic violence, discrimination and other negative factors – is this a reflection of personal experience?

Wyatt: I’ve written extensively on domestic violence (on QBliss). During my life I’ve known men and women, both gay and straight, who were physically battered and emotionally abused in relationships. When I began this book, I wanted it to be realistic and a teaching moment. I wanted people to understand that domestic violence in our community is more prominent than you think and much of it goes unreported, especially for men. We strive for masculinity and the male tradition of “I need to be able to deal with it” without asking for help.

DanNation: Are you as much of a hopeless romantic as your characters? Do you currently have a partner?

Wyatt: First, I AM a romantic when I’m inspired. I’m an earthy guy. I am a romanticist and a romantic and when I am really into someone I am both.

Second, so many novels exist where two protagonists fall into lust – I wanted this story to have more of a slow burn. I wanted the reader to see who these two men really are. From the time they first meet, they are attracted to each other but apply the brakes to learn about each other first. Both had failed relationships and wanted take their own relationship more slowly. The face a challenge of mixing business with pleasure and hold off. This flow gives them a chance to fall in love and not in lust and this is the story I wanted to tell. I wanted to tell everyone that LGBT people can fall in love just like everyone else. We can find out what we have in common intellectually and at a spiritual level first. In Wes’ and ‘Tonio’s monogamous relationship, they experience internal conflicts and external factors that throw their monogamy into serious jeopardy. Antonio is a good looking and deliciously muscular bodyguard who has a horrible sense of abandonment. In the story, someone enters who exploits these feelings. This leaves Wes deciding that Antonio was unfaithful.

And I am currently single and interested parties can contact me via email!

DanNation: You have so much going on. How do you accomplish everything you do and remain sane?

Wyatt: I don’t know (smile). I’m a writer, communications consultant, journalist, motivation, voice-over, actor – I like to do a bunch of different things. It keeps me alive!

DanNation: No wonder you have no time for a relationship!

Wyatt: I’m very open to a relationship – if the right person comes along, I’ve always been able to adjust my schedule. You can’t have your life focused on only one area as you might miss that very special person. The ‘right’ people come around when you least expect it. If you are into each other, you know it and you work your schedules to make time.

DanNation: How do you choose your projects? Will there be a sequel?

Wyatt: I am finishing the novella “Sinnin’ in the Tha Citay.” It will be a short novel to be released in the spring of 2013.

In conjunction with QBliss, I will conduct workshops on depression, racism and domestic violence in the LGBT community later this year.

As for the sequel, I am writing it. This sequel, while tying up loose ends from this novel, is a total cliffhanger. The sequel will come out later in 2013 or early 2014.

DanNation: The way it is written, it would make a terrific film. Is that in the future?

Wyatt: I wrote the book like a screenplay and would love to craft into a television series or movie – it is structured for that. I really believe that this story has universal appeal because it is thought-provoking with twist and turns, romance, and drama. Women, men, hetero or straight can relate to Wes and ‘Tonio’s story as they are two people in love.

DanNation: How do readers get a copy of the book?

Wyatt: You can order the book from wyattobrianevans.com where you can order autographed copies. It will show up in bookstores in a few months.

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So now you have a great new book for your night stand – read it. You won’t be disappointed!

5 Hottest Straight Allies for LGBT Rights

To many of us, it is evident that the only way the LGBT community will gain full equality is with our straight allies championing our cause. Fortunately, a long list of heroes have stepped forward – many of whom bring fans, followers and friends into our fight for rights. And, fortunately for us, some are smoking hot actors, athletes and brave teenagers. Here’s our compilation of our top hot straight and powerful allies:

1. Ben Cohen

The British former rugby player has stepped up to the plate with the founding of his StandUp Foundation, which “stands up” against bullying and homophobia in sports but also works tirelessly with other populations as well. And, well, Ben is eye candy who knows how to tease a gay or two.

2. Daniel Radcliffe

Daniel Radcliffe devotes countless hours as a frequent spokesperson for The Trevor Project, which provides intervention and suicide-prevention services to LGBT youth who are facing bullying and other issues. We all agree that Harry Potter has grown into a gorgeous man, but his work for our community makes him even more sexy. Radcliffe has said “Gay people should have equality in law everywhere … If you grow up as a young gay man knowing you don’t have the same opportunities as everyone else, you’re going to feel victimized and massive prejudice towards you.” Below is a recent PSA Radcliffe recorded for The Trevor Project.

 3. Zach Wahls

Zach Wahls first rose to our attention when he addressed the Iowa legislature in 2011 about his experience growing up with two lesbian moms. His testimony went viral and hurled him into the world of gay activism.

Most recently, Wahls has crusaded against the ban against gays in the Boy Scouts. While the organization voted to continue its ban last week, Wahls continues his fight for our rights. The articulate (and handsome) Wahl continues his activism as he endorses President Obama in the video below:

 4. Sean Avery

Sean Avery has played professional hockey for 9 years for the Detroit Red Wings, Los Angeles Kings, Dallas Stars and New York Rangers. In 2011, after he stepped up his support for marriage equality with the New Yorkers for Marriage Equality campaign, he lobbied the New York legislature to legalize same-sex marriage (which, BTW, was passed a year ago this week). Last year he told the New York Times: “I’m Sean Avery, and I’m a New Yorker for marriage equality. I treat everyone the way I expect to be treated, and that applies to marriage.”

While we appreciate Avery on the ice (and on our podium), he also looks great in underwear. Need I say more?

5. Hudson Taylor

Columbia University wrestling coach and Division 1 All-American wrestler Hudson Taylor founded Athlete Ally, a site he started “as a resource to encourage athletes, coaches, parents, fans and other members of the sports community to respect all individuals involved in sports, regardless of perceived or actual sexual-orientation or gender identity or expression.” He is a staunch believer that sports should be for everyone, and his nonprofit seeks to empower athletes to consider their status as role models and to avoid homophobia in their words. Watch Taylor below:

While this is a short list, there are many more hot straight allies helping us in our cause including George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Josh Hutcherson and Gavin Newsom. Who would you add to the list?