How to meet guys in a digital age

The other night I was talking to a friend of mine who was telling me this story about how he was at his friends house and his boyfriend just rocked up unannounced. He was saying that it was really weird and I agreed. Then on second thought I said “You know, before mobile phones it was completely normal to just rock up at peoples houses unannounced”. It got me thinking about how mobile phones have completely changed a lot of the ways we interact. It wasn’t long before I started applying the thought of how technology had changed things to my own situation.

I know I’m not alone in saying this but, I have a shocking batting average when it comes to meeting guys off the internet or through gay dating apps. I find it really hard to strike up conversations with complete strangers and an even harder time keeping the conversation flowing. In a real life scenario, I find it much easier to make conversation and flirt but when I am starring at that stupid screen my mind goes blank. I just don’t know what to say.

So I began to imagine if I was a gay man in the 1980′s, before mobile phones and grindr, before the internet, how would I have met other gay guys to date? I don’t like gay pubs and nightclubs much so that wouldn’t be an option for me. After discussing it with a couple of friends we came up with a very old school approach, meeting guys through friends. It’s what people have done for thousands of years yet with the bombardment of dating websites and dating apps, the most simple approach has seemed to fly under the radar to me.

Do you think that dating in a digital age has become far to complicated? Or does digital dating suit your needs? For me I think a simpler approach may be an easier approach.

Ty joins Gay Agenda

Hi Guys,

I’m Ty Curious and I have just joined the crew at gayagenda.com . I have got to say that I feel very privileged to join such an amazing group of writers. I thought I would start off my first post by telling you a little about myself . I’m a 27 year old Gay Blogger from Australia.

My friends often refer to me as being “The Worst Gay” because I am unlike any other gay person they know. For me being “The Worst Gay” has been kind of difficult. I’ve often found it hard to fit in with groups of gay guys. I’ve never fit into any of the stereotypes, no matter how hard I have tried. I’ve been Twink Ty, Bear Ty, Queen Ty, Jock Ty and none of them ever suited me. I guess people could always tell that I was trying to be something I am not.
 
A few years ago I gave up trying to fit in. I gave up trying to be what I thought a gay man should be and just started being me. It was the best thing I ever did, not only was I a lot happier but everyone else loved it too. My friends now refer to me as “The Best Gay” because even though I suck at being all the things that people think a gay person should be, I’m the best guy to hang around. So I try to write about being the best gay you can be, about just being me and hopefully showing you that you don’t have to fit any stereotype or anyone else’s idea of what you should be, that being yourself is the best!