Kids in Grade School May Know They’re Gay

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Pew Research Center’s Landmark Survey Shows Coming Out Sooner
The just-released Pew Survey reveals that kids as young as ten sense they are GLBT.  For greater anonymity, the survey was done online to attract a wider range of participants who were asked when they first knew they were gay and when they first told a close friend or relative. (Of course, closeted gays are reluctant to participate in a survey, thus eliminating a greater population).
Gender-Different Responses
On the average, male respondents said they suspected by the age of ten, knew at age 15, and told a friend or relative at age 18.  Female respondents, however, sensed it at age 13, knew at 18, and told someone at 21.… more

Bill Banning Reparative Therapy in N.J. Approved by Assembly


Prohibits Licensed Therapists from Performing Conversion Therapy on Minors
An Assembly panel, The Women and Children’s Committee, in the New Jersey State Legislature on June 13, 2013, has approved a measure that disallows licensed therapists from practicing conversion therapy on any person under the age of 18 – even with parental permission, The bill will next go to the Assembly and Senate for votes.
Late last month, the N.J. Senate was due to vote on the measure, but the vote was held up so some unspecified changes that could be made to the legislation.  The measure is backed by the American Psychological Association and is expected to be approved by Governor Christie.… more

First Openly Gay Soccer Player Gets Ovation on Field


Robbie Rogers Signed with Los Angeles Galaxy
In February, soccer player Robbie Rogers announced on a blog post that he was gay.  Following that big news, he decided to step away from the game.  He could not imagine that he could be himself on and off the field.
Fans Prove Rogers Wrong
However, on May 26th, Rogers, 24, walked onto the soccer field to a loud ovation to play on the LA Galaxy’s team against the Seattle Sojourners for a 4-0 victory.  A mid-fielder, formerly with the Columbus Crew, he had trained on the field as a youth.… more

Leap of Faith


How many times in our lives do we hear people say to us and others, “just have faith and it’ll all work out.”  What is faith?  There are many definitions, but for the purpose of this essay faith, as per Merriam Webster, is a “firm belief in something for which there is no proof (2) : complete trust.”  Because faith is such an elusive concept not grounded in fact and cannot be proven, it is hard for many to grasp and put into practice.  The daily grind of life, many times, can wear down any semblance of faith we may have to endure the most trying of times.… more

Fear of What You Want


Fear is a driving force in our lives.  The motivating factors of fear induce us to do things we normally would not do, good and bad, and also propels us to heights of awareness and achievement beyond our wildest expectations.  There is also a tendency of fear to be a regulator on our progress forward because we sometimes actually fear what we want, thus subconsciously preventing us from obtaining what we dream for.  While all these various factors of fear interact in our lives in some form or fashion, it is the last factor, fearing what we want, that is the most destructive to achieving our personal greatness.… more

Is there such a thing as a mainstream gay?


Could we be seeing the birth of a long list of mainstream gay’s on the TV sets of the United Kingdom? It certainly seems that way, not only is there the obligatory gay character in every single one of the main soap operas on British television, but also a raft gay people proliferate the schedules elsewhere. No sensible drama is considered complete without a gay or lesbian character, without them, it just does not seem authentic. Light entertainment has always bought gay people to the attention of the mainstream audience, never more so than present times, just look at the success the delightfully camp and savagely witty Graham Norton is having with his BBC One prime time chat show if you want evidence.… more

NBA Center Jason Collins Announces He’s Gay


President Obama and Others Congratulate Him
Washington Wizards Center Jason Collins made his declaration in a first-person essay that was published online by Sports Illustrated.  It will also appear in the May 6th issue of the magazine. With his declaration, he becomes the first openly gay professional male athlete in a major sport.
How and Why He Came Out
Collins said in the essay, “I’m a 34-year-old NBA Center.  I’m black.  And I’m gay. I didn’t set out to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport.  But since I am, I’m happy to start the conversation.  I wish I wasn’t the kid in the classroom raising his hand and saying, ‘I’m different.’ If I had my way, someone else would have already done this.  Nobody has, which is why I’m raising my hand.”
“It takes an enormous amount of energy to guard such a big secret.  I’ve endured years of misery and gone to enormous lengths to live a lie.  I was certain that my world would fall apart if anyone knew.  And yet when I acknowledged my sexuality I felt whole for the first time.  I still had the same sense of humor, I still had the same mannerisms and my friends still had my back.”
Collins, who said he tried to fight being gay for years, mentioned in the Sports Illustrated article that his loyalty to his teammates prevented him from coming out sooner because he did not want to be a distraction to them.  Still, he wore a 98 shirt while playing with the Celtics and Wizards.… more

Youtube Coming Out Videos Debate

I’m sure all of you have looked at coming out videos on Youtube at some point. Each day somebody who is gay, lesbian, bisexual and/or transgenered submits videos to share their stories with others. These videos help out many kids or even adults who are dealing with coming out. You have a choice to watch these videos or not. The people who are submitting these videos get a lot of feedback either positive or negative. I would like to share with you all one of the negative feedbacks from somebody that is straight.… more

Secure and Confident: Part 2


In a prior blog post I had written about the secure and confident environments we all had as children.  I had also touched upon how, as we grow older, those secure worlds we had as children begin to crumble and are replaced by other much less secure and confident conditions due to external influences that begin to impact us.  The purpose of this essay is to carry those general concepts forward and describe this evolution we all face in more personal terms.
Looking back on my childhood, many aspects were quite similar to those of other children I was growing up with.  I liked to play and hang out with my friends.  I went to school and experienced much of the same trials and tribulations that others around me were experiencing, but my secure world seemed to have started to crumble very early in my life.… more

Coming Out No way In

Robbie Rogers

The true story of why professional soccer player Robbie Rogers had to retired immediately after coming out as the UK’s only openly gay top flight professional soccer player.
It was only this February that the then Leeds play who has also represented the United States in 18 international football matches, opened his heart and revealed his true sexuality, then promptly walked away from the beautiful game. In his first interview for UK media since he came out, he explained his hurt, anger and how it is still virtually impossible for gay players to come out and remain in the game.… more