Settling For Less

Do you ever notice how many people wish the best for others and always say that they deserve it?  But in the same breath they may state something like, “I could never have what he has” or “I wish I could do what she did.”

A tendency exists in many, me included at times, to berate one’s own abilities and settling for less than what we deserve.  I know now when I catch myself doing it, I quickly state, “no you are wrong, you can do whatever you want to do, when you want to do it!  I deserve no less than the best!”

In many cases, the root cause of the self-berating is a less than good self image.  If we all could see the inherent potential that lies in each of us, and truly believe it was there for the picking, at any time we willed to do so, how many of us would berate ourselves and our abilities a lot less?

It saddens me when people settle for less than what they deserve because they don’t have a good sense of self. I pray to the universe that they awaken someday and realize they are better than what they think they are.

This is no truer than when one is in the closet… yes that damn closet again!  It has been the focus of many an article I write, but being in the closet due to fear of the unknown and a self image grounded in what others think, prevents people from not settling for less than what they deserve.

Incessantly closeted individuals hear from others how terrible being gay is or that it is sinful and against God’s wishes.  Naturally hearing such horrible things directly impacts how one sees themselves and is especially detrimental if their self image is based on what others think rather than on what they think of themselves.

Make a decision to celebrate who you are and your potential contributions to society as an openly queer individual.  There is no greater feeling when one can, to borrow a quote from the Matrix, “know thyself.”

When one’s true essence is firmly grounded within, there is no stopping the power of the individual to obtain anything they want.  Settling for less than what is deserved becomes no longer an option.

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